like a girl

I am a girl. I was born a girl and I identify as a girl. 

Over the weekend there were a couple of notable events in the AFL. 

The first involved Adam Goodes an indigenous spokesperson who made a statement on the weekend which as I’m not indigenous myself, I don’t feel qualified to comment on (except to mention a couple of tweets about how excited their kids got when seeing Adam Goodes seeing their tribal dance on TV which I thought was really cool – every kid should grow up seeing themselves in at least one person on TV.)

The second was Ollie Wines (who plays for my beloved Port Adelaide) making a statement at quarter time saying that “we’re playing like a bunch of girls.”

Firstly I want to say that I’m not offended by this. I don’t wake up on a Sunday morning, read the paper and wonder what to be offended about today. But I am frustrated and pissed off. 

I hear this type of comment way too often to not be annoyed by it. 

BEING A GIRL IS NOT A BAD THING!
And I continue to ponder how is being like a girl an insult?
So why, when watching a game of football does ‘oh you’re playing like a girl’ get said so often. 

Mythbusters has proven that “throw like a girl” has no scientific merit. 

I doubt there is a single category of thing where you could have everyone in the world in a row from best to worst and there would be a distinctive line between men and woman (and this who identify as neither). 

I confronted a male friend about this last weekend and eventually said “if you use being a girl as an insult then we can’t be friends.” 

Because we can’t. If you think that my gender is inferior to yours then no we can’t be friends. That’s a deal breaker to me. 

But interestingly no one had ever called him on it before. No one had ever pointed out that by calling a football players lack of commitment ‘girly’ he was saying that being a girl was somehow worse than being a boy. 

I love being a girl. Sometimes it sucks (eg finding the right hormonal birth control), but you know what? being a girl is awesome. And no worse than being a boy. 

So stop saying ‘girl’ as though it’s an insult or somehow worse than being a boy. Because it’s not.